Many women won’t consider adoption because of misconceptions. They see adoption as giving away the child they carried for nine months, never to know what happened to their baby afterwards. But adoption is a very loving choice. Loving your
child enough to give him life, you then can give her the gift of a family. Adoption isn't like it used to be. A common misconception included the view that if a woman saw her child it would be harder on her to give him up. In many cases not
seeing her child proved harder on the mother because questions went unanswered and wasn't given the chance to say hello to her child before much less good bye.
Three types of adoption are available to you today. Each is designed with your best interest in mind. In all cases you have the option to spend as much time with your child as you want while you are in the hospital.
- The first type of adoption is called an Open Adoption Plan. This type of adoption will not only allow you to choose the family who will raise your child, but you will be able to meet and get to know the family. An Open Adoption
Plan also allows on-going visits with your child, and he will know from the beginning that you are his birth parent.
- The second type of adoption available is the Semi-Private Adoption. This allows you to choose a family from written non-identifying information provided by the adoption agency. You would keep in contact with the family through
letter and photos but they would be exchanged through the adoption agency or a third party.
- The third type of adoption is the Confidential Adoption Plan. This plan allows you to have no contact with your child or the adoptive family if that is your desire. You would request that the agency choose an adoptive family for
your child. Other than a medical history there would be no contact between you and the adoptive family and no updates with letters and photos.
If you would like more detailed information about adoption in general or one of the three types of adoptions in particular you should contact your nearest adoption agency or pregnancy resource center. By making the call you are not making
any commitment, and no one will pressure you at any time. What they will offer is additional information, guidance, and support if you so desire. All services through an adoption agency, including the adoption, are at no cost to you.
Making an adoption plan can be a win win situation. Your child is given the gift of life and the gift of a family and security. You are free to continue with your education, career, or life plans. Being pregnant is not a terminal
situation, you will get past this. It may temporarily slow down your goals but making an adoption plan will help you get back on track with the confidence and knowledge that you brought new life into the world and fulfilled someone’s dream of
having a family.